When we argue he always has to insert stupid comments like he is my dog, he isnt going anywhere, I love him and thats that. And I can reach out and pet them or even snuggle them and still be in a dog-free bed with my boyfriend. Well she peed every where and eventually would climb out over the gates. Kick her and the dog out. I just dont know what to do anymore. Id rather be covered in dirt to be frank. The relationship is still really new and at least Im trying. Hey, I wanted to ask for some advice. Spoiled animal who is neither trained nor socialized. But Ive realized after these months Im not sure how I feel about the pet and if I can see myself pursuing a deep- marriage like relationship with her because of it. Anyhow, we moved to a house where I agreed to keep my dog in his own section of the house in the kitchen/laundry room so if he were to have an accident, which infuriates my husband, then it wouldnt be hard to clean up. He yells at his dog, calls her stupid, or idiot, or worse, when he steps on her feet, or she pulls on her leash we treat our dogs very differently. vocally, he is loud in the middle of the night, and first thing in the morning, until he has the ability to be right next to her. Ridiculous!!! Heartbroken. Is there anyone prepared or happy to take your dog out for giving exercises. He loves kids like I love animals. He quit saying it. Its seemed like she was in love with him! I have to set this up for you. My advice to anyone thinking of getting a dog is to be really clear how your partner feels about them first. It does not help she has nipped me before and has a tendency to walk behind my legs up close which freaks me the hell out! I cant bring myself in my daily life to worry and stress about it because there are at least 10 other things to worry about in my day ahead. First thing we noticed was that the dog was super timid, but we figured it was just that the dog was in a new place, new owners, new environment, etc. They should not be in bed with you they should not be on furniture they should not be allowed near small children. My husband and I are separated. I have had my dog since he was 4 months old. All I get from your lengthy comment is that no, you dont need a dog and neither a SO in your life. I let her out first thing in the morning but if I dont wake up early enough she just goes. I just wish she wouldnt stink or shed so much but this wont stop. Shed sit on the far left of the sofa. the dual personality of the terrier really made the situation worse to the point of being a barking biting alpha dog. Im going through the exact same thing.., we are on the verge of calling it quits due to the fighting his dog has brought on our relationship and the resentment Ive built towards him. What I dont get is why would anyone want dogs to sleep in their bed if they have a partner or are married? He talks about it all the time. She constantly is dropping her slobbery toys in my lap. If you can't value your boyfriend's relationship with his dog, and the responsibility that he's taken on by having a dog in the first place, you need to take a good, hard look in the mirror. Well guys after two years I ended up loving the dog, she sleeps on the bed and my relationship is better than its ever been. And promises has been broken as far as who comes first, husband or dog. The hamster is in my room. 2 months later my husband decides he wants another cat. Spend the $50-100 to see a trainer. I want to have a fresh start together and build a happy marriage and we want to start a family. He has done somethings like give the dog his own room (which I still believe he belongs outside), because he cant walk around the house and spread his dander everywhere that Im allergic to. The dog, 2. I have tried to compromise with him. I have a similar problem, my boyfriend, my 2 cats & I have been living together over 5yrs. Provide the necessary amount of exercise on a daily basis. I have come to find out that nothing keeps it at bay. When I was pregnant he wouldnt take the dog off the bed even though I have asthma & I was pregnant at the time. Now that Im almost 7 months pregnant I just get irritated with her. The kids knock his dog bowl water out which I try to check as much as possible to refill and if partner comes home and sees water missing he gets mad with me Ive it basically saying Im neglecting his dog which makes me really angry. Just like people sometimes dont like other people. When I married my husband, I knew he was a waterfowl hunter and a dog is part of the equipment. Theyre revealing their true colours now. Last nite she made the comment to a friend who was here that it was my life and thats how I choose to live it and she cant do anything about it,. i even know of instances when couples had a kid that they were raised that the dog is their older brother or sister !! Like you said, everyone ignores the fact that different dogs are bred for different reasons. Its interesting that the partners of dog fanatics are a mix of men and women. My first dog was older when they met and therefore very sedate, the second dog was not into people, other dogs, she was very reserved, so having a puppy around freaks him out. Hire a dog walker: Hiring a dog walker to lessen his workload is a good idea. I get so frustrated at people who think animals deserve better treatment than people. As for me and the dog, we still dont get along, Im trying to make it work but she tends to nip and Yelp at me, so we just leave each other alone. If my husband would meet me halfway and at least hold the baby long enough for me to take the dog out then he wouldnt have the occasional accident now. I am actually relieved I left and that was only a few months ago. He lied about liking animals and expects me to comply with his demand of putting them in a shelter, or else. They have a gate separating the sides of the house but tonight the dog broke through it. Also, the dogs never get showered, brushed, nails clipped, they dont get vaccinations or flea treatments. Well the plot has thickened. This morning I got up and fed the crying baby, as I always do, while my husband sleeps. Its self humiliation and you ARE worth more than that! Dogs are your slaves, respect them, give them tasks, love them and ask that they maintain a respectful dog/owner relationship train them to love commands, train them to be dogs not people. She says she dont feed him our food well if that was the case them why is he always staring in my face when I eat. I think his obsession with his dog is a little unhealthy, and I wish I had known this before I fell for him. He even send me a text telling me I threaten him with the dog and he threw the ring in the trash. I can completely relate. If you Love your dog like I think you do. He got a Yorkie I didnt want. I wish the best for you from one dog lover to another. Issues with an introduction: Sometimes, the issue with the introduction to other pets. I need only to say No and she stops. Unfortunately, they can live up to 20 years! My pup does chew but not on her things like she use to do. Supervising: You need to take the responsibility to supervise your kids and watch all the time not to play with the dog until your dog trainer recommends doing so. I give her a command ( Ive spent hundreds of hours training) and she still resists and gets this look on her face like Ive done the worst thing in the world to her that also goes for asking her to go outside. I feel the same as many other people that no matter what, I feel my house is dirty. He pees everywhere no matter how many times you take him on a walk or let him outside. Instead we come out realizing that there are dog-obsessed freaks out there. (chihuahuas) those dogs are little demons that got sent to earth. ?When I see this I automatically assume the person /owner has mental health issues or is intellectually challenged. Its a relief that Im not alone, but hard to believe that so many people are going through the same thing. As for your girlfriends nightmare of a dog???? Jennifer- I wound up listening to your advice. I find hair still on clothes that Ive washed after being there. We picked up Chatty Cathy and she is a young cat that talks way too much and does not listen! It has caused me a lot of stress. Hes had this dog for six years prior to me, so shes been with him for a long time. IT tried biting our baby!!!!!! i said look ive tried to learn to live with him..im on edge constantly from watching him like a hawk around the baby..ive exhausted myself trying to get you to see that im not just being mean ..im concerned for my baby and for the baby on the way there is no way in hell i can deal with a newborn and that dog..but all that aside i just wanted to sleep without him keeping me up all night for once and cuddle my husbandhe said well go lay down where you can sleep then babei was floored..basically hes saying my concerns and needs and wants are not important at all to him..and im second to his dogi got upset and cried and said some things i didnt mean..but hell who wouldnt at that point.he looked at me hateful as could be with the dog laid in my spot all up on his side and said if you dont wana sleep with the dog then get the hell out of the roomwhat do i even say or do anymore? Your right.. When she arrived she was on the couch. After being married 6 months I realized he was married to his dog and I was the third wheel. If you leave, it will hurt at first, it always does, as the movie Hope Floats has a very good line, Beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but its whats in the middle that counts. Your husband/boyfriend may want to rehome the dog because it Pees or poops inside. No, you dont have to see your boyfriends dog as a human. My dog and his dog get along famously since they met when he was six weeks old, but now he doesnt want them to go for walks anymore because his dog is sore the next day. It is extremely protective of its owner, its bed, food, etc. Sam Basso is a professional dog trainer and behaviorist, in the Phoenix/ Scottsdale metropolitan area. he lies on her keyboard, on her paperwork, gets between us during intimate moments. He jumps up on me, and it hurts so bad when his nails rake my skin, and has knocked me to the ground before. My work laptop, INSIDE my work bag has hair in it. Really think about your life here. Its a warped relationship Watch for pictures of the animal everywhere and how he or she speaks about their pet. Im an elctrician and have loads contact with people, but am completely trapped have no freinds as my wife was always number one, only moved to australia 5 years ago and in big trouble emotionaly wise. I lost a child and the rest of my family has abandoned me.a girl I do had rescued a very small Chihuahua that had been seriously abused. I may have said some misunderstood and vulgar things but frustration can do a lot of things to the mind. I asked my husband if hes willing to put her dog bed out of the bedroom and he didnt like the idea I feel he puts the dog before me and he even willing for me to separate from him than to compromise. Lots of relationships get stressed and dog lovers are incredibly strange in what they tolerate. When she brushes up against you there is hair on your clothes. So what am I to do? Hes drinking and now back to as he says dabbling in drugs. And ruin the home. She was way obsessed about them with a bulldog pillow, bulldog painting, bulldog mugs, bulldog statue, bulldog keychain, picture of her dead bulldog on her mantle along with his ashes, her company is named after her bulldog with its picture. For starters we agreed no dogs on the couch as it is my couch from the start, we also agreed that she will sleep in a kennel. Well now my boyfriend is fed up & told me that the cats have only two places in the house. Think about a puppy who bites you as a result of being a bit exceedingly excited. The biggest mistake was bringing the dog into the bed because now hes trained to think thats where hes supposed to be. Nor will he let me even attempt to give the dogs away. I didnt really have a choice. ?!$&@!?! Woah. She had my picture on her phone and removed it to have the dog on there. Then he needs to go? Run while you can 9 months dont seem like much in the grand scheme of things. They cry & come & stare at me. For now this isnt a huge issue because I have my own place. Dont hire dog walkers. I seriously believe its a sort of mental illness that needs to be addressed! Sam Basso has a unique personal touch. So I caved. Did I leave my husband for a dog that he chose? No amount of vacuuming keeps the hair at bay. Hes taking his threats a bit rough, like taking the whole fingers in the mouth but I think hes gonna learn to take it gentle with some training. I am discussed with them and cannot express my frustration without creating an issue. me too with my dog. He wants her on the couch all the time even though she is always peeing on herself and dirty. You and your happiness need to come first. this rat terriers was given a time out in a bedroom, closet or backyard when the barking started. I found him tripping and cant see where dog is helping him at all. I will on my own hide the ball after a significant amount of play time but all that happens is the Boston will run around in desperate and panicked fashion looking for it and my girlfriend will ultimately give it to him. I told him that I was worried about losing our relationship over a dog. I live on 5 acres and have plenty of room. But as time goes on I feel more resentment. It does not mean your partner has to help to, itd your pet so dont give them that responsibility because its not theirs. For the kitchen, you can use a baby gate in order to restrict access. He wasnt over the moon about my dog but he grew to tolerate and even help out if I would be home late from work or out for the day. He doesnt want to be a responsible dog owner and groom her properly and he doesnt want to discipline her out of guilt. My boyfriend can't handle that this dog is bouncy, happy to see him and that he wants to cuddle with him. They both are very jealous and possessive dogs! Shes also not fixed so when she has her menstrual cycle she will bleed spots all over the home. The dog is 10 years old roughly and does not listen at all. Dogs need attention , training and affection. Or he needs to retrain his cat!!! Dogs are not kids, gah that makes me want to vomit. I went into the relationship not thinking my pets would be a problem,but since he has virtual power over the household, he has decided that they have to go. I cannot help I wasnt raised around pets or never really had but one as a child. Video of them walking saying they drag their feet. I am fighting a losing battle. i have severe allergies and most importantly, i do not want them constantly running in the house and jumping on furniture. Both 4 years and my wife has one who is 5. The dog has health issues and a husband/boyfriend. Its called proper training and reminding the dog that they are a dog and not a human. Understand that each can be a part of your life if you wise up and stop ruining your dogs life by allowing it to expect to live as a human. My boyfriend hates my dog and wont let him at his apartment, but insists I stay there. He never does it when someone is in the house so we rarely catch him doing it. It was wearing diapers for at least six months, walking into walls, it forgot who we were, forgot its name, and forgot any commands. A never-ending saga of stupid gross events. I cant fathom the fact that the dogs are more important than me! Finally one of my plates was chipped and I ask him to stop and he started using paper plates. It also shows a man how you may treat a child if you have one, thats not good. we moved in together after we got married and the cat came too. It is stressful for me as well but I seem to handle some things better. We do sleep in the same bed, but when she came, she began sleeping in the room with us. Lots of hugsxxx. Im getting ready to go back to work and I dread what I will come home to. Divorced 3 years ago and my x husband hated her bc she was in the house. Beau never has accidents and is probably the most problem free dog I have ever owned. She hardly barks and does not defecate or urinate in the home. The dog has not done anything wrong. I think that you are correct! Call Today! because thats BS ALL hairy animals that spend time both inside and out do. I thought Id be okay with having a dog in the house, but I am not adjusting well. Im want him to be happy but not at the expense of being held captive & having these dogs thrust upon me. Jay, thanks for posting what has occurred since your relationship ended in your life. Since then, wife had brought a greyhound who is miserable to have around and barks at every little noise, including action on the TV during the hockey game, so much so that I crate him when Im watching sports. 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