Have a question? If you and your partner have gotten into a sexual routine, having sex the same night each week or always in the same position, sooner or later you will find that that kind of sex is lackluster. Most men are generous by nature and want their women to be sexually satisfied. You have no idea what the next person is thinking. 40% of Indian wives have regular sexual intercourse with men other than her husband: Report; Study says most young women are stressed about their sex lives She might still make an effort to please you. Dear How to Do It, My husband and I married young and have been together for 15 years. You can’t avoid taking responsibility for your own pleasure by focusing on him all the time. Send it to Stoya and Rich here. For example, learn your man’s moods so that when he’s brooding you know to leave him alone, but when he’s upset and wants to … Keep everyone else away from your spouse. This is when, even if you do your best to keep your partner satisfied sexually, things might go pear-shaped for her. It was with one, my husband… When you give your husband no peace, constantly complain and give him pressure, his penis will find it difficult to get hard for you or even want you. To make your man happy emotionally and sexually in your relationship, remember to be attentive to his needs and ready to try new things. We were both newly divorced and our children had left for college. You need to keep surprising this man to keep him interested, both in and out of the bedroom. Satisfied women know what they want, and 87 percent will express it. Three years ago I had sex every single day, for one whole year.. To answer the most popular questions I've been asked since: No, it was not with 365 men. It’s anonymous! AVOID STRESSING HIM Sex starts in the mind. Once your husband perceives or knows you are giving attention to other men or another man, he will be less interested to make love to you. 14. You need to keep things as spicy as the moment you met him. Yet, actually, her mind wanders elsewhere. The worst thing you can do if you are trying to make your man sexually addicted to you is to make your relationship monotonous and boring. I wasn’t seeking anything in my sex life—our sex life is good—but the orgasm made me wonder how I can incorporate that experience in our sex life. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. She might keep on doing the same things, making all the right moves and all the right sounds. To make sex great again, switch things up and see how sexually satisfied that makes you . Keith* and I met in our late 40s at turning points in our lives.